If God will, we will later see that being" ear"( credulous ),
thatis respecting the speeches of others and not expressing mistrust on them
unduly, and also showing mildness, amenity, kindness and sympathy to the
others, and assuming their problems as one's own problems, has a profound
effect in influencing on the thoughts of others.
As we read in the biography of Prophet S. A.:" He alwayspreceded in
saying Salam( hello ), and if someone detained himfor a work, he waited until
he was given up, and when someoneshook hands with him, he did not leave him
until the other partytook action for disparting, he called even the children
with theirnicknames) the best names with Arabs (, and he never sat amonghis
companions so that he would have an excellence over theothers ...". [2]
The effect of each of these moral affairs in impressing uponthe others will
be clarified in the next discussions.
7- It goes without saying that in this
discussion, like all socialand objective discussions, one shall never utilize
impropermeans and ways for achieving to the goal that is influencing onthe
others. Therefore, only the way which is correct by itself, andalso utilized
for achievement to a correct purpose should bepresented.
Shall we be fact seeking or aggressive ?
Why we do not succeed in our discussions: We have frequently found
following affairs when discussing